I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 36 (female, Germany) during a heavy phase of depression. Acknowledging that i am depressed was the hardest bit. My husband told me he worries about me. He was right, i was being bullied at work (social worker) by my former boss. I was suicidal.
But i listened to him, finally got an appointment, was referred to the next one. She was a perfect match. She found out that i am ADHD. it was a complete surprise for me. And a relief. To finally learn that my perceived failure was not my fault changed my life.
I am still going through depressed episodes, but i healed so much, the boss is gone, i have medication that helps me with my emotional imbalance and gives me a mental anchor. I now understand my kids a lot better, have more medical induced patience. be patient with yourself. we are important and allowed to be here. And its not our fault.
I embrace being a zebra. i realized i was amongst horses and that’s why i stood out all my life. now i know why. <3
Michi