I was formally diagnosed when I was 8. My mom says she knew beforehand, but she was in denial I guess. I remember thinking I was broken. Defective. I couldn’t sit still for more than a minute, couldn’t keep my thoughts straight, and I was constantly bouncing. Meds helped, but only a bit. I got sick of the side effects so I stopped taking them when I was 14.
When I had my son, I hoped beyond hope that he didn’t have to struggle like I still was. He was diagnosed halfway through kindergarten, because he was disruptive in class. He was like me, only more intense. We tried everything we could think of before meds, because I remembered how I felt.
Being a mom with ADHD is hard. Being a mom with ADHD to a kid with ADHD feels impossible sometimes. The worst feeling is when people who don’t understand tell me that it’s all in my head and ADHD isn’t real, and that my son is just being a normal little boy. I know normal, and I know my son. He’s normal, just a little extra. ADHD IS NORMAL!
I was a great worker for sixteen years at a company. My manager shared she had ADHD and I then shared my ADHD.
The next year, the workload increased dramatically. The manager stated not to worry and do your best. Naively believing her, I believed she would stand up for us in the event of workload issues. Sadly, I was targeted and there is no doubt in my mind since she had ADHD herself and knew how the ADHD mind works, she exasperated my symptoms. Other employees saw this and encouraged me to go to Human Resources and would attest to my story. But, they bailed.
I was terminated. I filed with the EEOC and lost because others wouldn’t come forward. Sexual orientation, sexual discrimination and race are given more credibility than ADHD. Companies have all the power. I did all the “right” things and lost because termination from ADHD is hard to prove.
I am proud of my tenacity to stand up for myself and taking on a company and ADHD laws need to be stronger.
I’ve known I’ve has ADHD my whole life. But until recently, I didn’t quite know what that meant.
I knew it was hard to stay still and hard to focus but that was it. I didn’t know that ADHD effects so much more. Therefore, school was terrible. I was always getting picked on. I would get really depressed because I didnt understand why I acted so weird or said and did things without thinking.
My parents took me off my medication because they didnt believe in ADHD. Later in life, I developed a drug addiction to manage myself.
My main point here is that ADHD is REAL, if left untreated it can destroy your childs life. Get them help.
As a parent of a child with ADHD you quickly realize from a young age that there is something different about your child. You can’t quite put your finger on it at first but soon others also begin to notice. Once we put our child in Montessori at the age of 2 1/2 was when things started to become more evident. We were getting phone calls from the teachers, he was very disruptive and hands on and couldn’t pay attention during circle time.
We were encouraged to seek help with child professionals. It helped but didn’t solve the problem. My son then started kindergarten. That year he was suspended 3 times.
I then knew I had to take action and sought out to find the best neuropsychologist (which I found) who diagnosed my son with ADHD. It was bittersweet. Sad but also a relief for we now had answers. We chose to medicate and it has been the best decision we ever made.
He can now focus and is able to learn and make better choices. It’s not perfect but he’s now thriving and happy.
– Mary Egglezos
Some people think that ADHD doesn’t exist; some of them think that we just need to be “disciplined” for misbehaving and not acting appropriately for our age. Some non-ADHD people are even using it as an excuse for procrastinating and for being lazy. It is sad that most people know only the myths about ADHD.
ADHD is always more than that. ADHD is both a super power and our Kryptonite. We sometimes feel limitless and are hyperfocused, but we do not always know when to stop. We sometimes think that we can do everything and everything is well planned, but three days later we find ourselves on a ball-pit of failure slowly swallowing us. There are times that we cannot really function well and unable to find motivation to finish a task and so we blame dopamine. We are an emotional sponge and can cry for almost everything that melts our heart. Emotional hyperactivity or hypersensitivity is sometimes so hard to contain. But ADHD is our strength and our weakness. This is ADHD.
In my younger years I was treated for depression. However, I stopped treatment for a long time thinking I could “handle my problems alone.” I struggled throughout college even though I had good intentions. Finally, at the age of 29 I went to a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with ADHD. I began treatment and my focus has been excellent. It gave me a sense of empowerment. I finally felt I could see the world clearly as if putting on a new pair of glasses. I told many people that I felt like Patrick Swayze in Ghost, that I could finally focus to kick the can.
When I was 8 years old I was diagnosed with ADHD. I did not understand what that meant and how it would affect my learning and everyday habits. It wasn’t until I was in high school that I had found a way to better myself without medication and therapy. I had to accept the fact that I do have ADHD and it’s not a weakness, but more of strength. My story has no uprising life story. I’m just a regular person like everyone else. I want people to see that people like me with ADHD are no different than any other person; we just have different ways of thinking and doing things it takes a little extra work
My son was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 6 years old he is now 13. He is the most loving caring boy I have ever met but people don’t always see that he is impulsive and struggles with social situations. He runs when things get too much. Today I had the news that his school can no longer cater for him (even though he hasn’t had the right support from day one). He has had a positive referral to a learning center and I’m hoping my little boy will soon get the education he needs. I wish I could change the way people see ADHD. They are not naughty, difficult children they just need loving and guidance. Just because you can’t see ADHD/ODD doesn’t make it less real.
“It’s such a freedom to know about my ADHD and to know what to do about it…it’s in implementing the solutions where the freedom comes.”
Of those who went undiagnosed with ADHD until adulthood, I am one of the lucky ones. I was able to struggle through and graduate from high school and college, I am successful in my career, and I have been married for two years. Even though my life looks great on paper, my entire existence has been a constant internal struggle that has made me seem lazy, flakey, forgetful and irrationally worried. Receiving a diagnosis of ADHD last year was a lifesaver. By learning as much as I can about my disease, I am able to make the connections between the way my brain works and my specific behaviors, and I feel empowered. I didn’t know I had ADHD until I was 29 years old because I wasn’t aware of the range of symptoms. The more we talk about it, the better chance we have to help those who are undiagnosed by showing them there might be something more going on, and that something more can be managed with the right help. Knowing is better, and it’s the first step toward a truly livable life.